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9 Sexy Games To Spice Up Your Sex Life

By Heather Redwood
Updated December 21, 2015

As you settle into your relationship and become comfortable with your partner and their particular sexual proclivities, it’s easy to find yourself falling into a rut.

Once-thrilling sex becomes mundane and matter-of-fact. Then, one day, you find yourself hoping that this isn’t a night in which you’ll have to entertain your partner between the sheets.

If your love life has become lackluster, there are some things you can do to breathe new life into it. Transform your tame and perfunctory between-the-sheets time into an energetic and engaging romp with some bedroom games about which you’ll be thinking the whole next day.

1. Strip Twister

The classic game, Twister, is good for more than just straining your muscles and turning your ankle. Jazz this game up by adding a decidedly sexy element – nudity. Lay out your Twister mat and share the rules with your partner – you fall, you strip. Continue playing until either one of you is naked or you are both naked enough to be too distracted by each other’s naughty bits to continue.

2. Red Light, Green Light

Everyone knows that a green light means go and a red light means stop. Bring these rules into the bedroom with this simple game. To play, select a person to be “in charge”. Get yourself situated and clothed to your liking, and then begin. To start, the person in charge says, “green light,” and then begins to count down, slowly, from 20. As soon as the lead says, “green light,” the other participant in the game begins to touch their partner – any way they want to. They don’t have to stop until the leader counts down to zero. If they do a good enough job touching, they may just get too distracted to ever reach this digit.

3. Seven Minutes In Heaven

If you remember being a teenager, seven minutes in heaven likely rings a bell. While most retire their crowns as the seven minutes in heaven champ upon matriculating, you don’t have to abandon this pastime. Why would you? You’ll be so much better at it now. You actually have some idea what you’re doing. Step out of retirement and try this game as an adult. Grab your snuggle partner and pull them into a room. Set a timer for seven minutes and, with the lights out, have your way with them – above the clothes, first. After the timer goes off, stop – or at least try to – to keep them wanting more.

4. Sexy Scavenger Hunt

If sex toys get you in the mood, nothing will fit the bill better than a sexy scavenger hunt. Before your beau comes home, take any sex toys you can find – including things that double as sex toys, like whipped cream, and hide them around the house. When your partner gets home, give them a list of all the items you have hidden. Set a timer for five minutes and tell them that, whatever they can find before it goes off, they’ll be able to use on you. If you have something that you definitely want them to be able to use, put less effort into hiding it to ensure that it’s easy to find!

5. Guess The Object

Fully connect to your senses while engaging in foreplay with a game of Guess That Object. For this game, play is simple. Select one member of your duo to blindfold. Have this trusting volunteer lie down and obscure their vision – perhaps with something sexy, like a silk scarf. Once you’re sure they can’t see, start taking objects and pressing them against their body. Move each object around their skin, focusing on the tender spots behind their knees, on their stomach or some other appropriate place. Your partner’s job – to guess what object you are currently using to caress them. Everything from food to foliage is free game, so get creative.

6. A Or B

Sexual experiences are so much more satisfying when you tell your partner just what you like. This simple game is all about doing just that. To play, select one partner to be blindfolded. The blindfolded individual lies down on the bed, and the other partner starts sensual exploration. To begin, the sighted partner touches the partner in one specific way – perhaps caressing their stomach, for example, and says, “A.” Once the blindfolded partner has had ample opportunity to experience this particular touch, the sighted partner starts touching in a different way and place – kneading their inner thigh, for instance, and says, “or B.” The blindfolded partner states which touch they prefer before the sighted partner moves on to another pair of touches.

7. Strip Pong

If you owned the beer pong tables in college, try trading one vice – alcohol – for another – sex – with strip pong. To play, set up 12 plastic cups on your dining room table, placing six cups in a diamond pattern on both the head and foot. Using ping pong balls, take turns trying to land in these cups. Remove the cups once you do. Each time your partner lands a shot, you lose a piece of clothing – and vice versa. Whoever ultimately wins the game gets to select a sexual favor of his or her choice.

8. Kinky Cards

Not all sexy bedroom games require a lot of set up. If you want to have some fun in the bedroom, but time is at a premium, try kinky cards. All you need to get started is a standard deck of playing cards – well, and a partner, of course. Sit on the floor or bed with your partner and put the deck of cards between you. Together, assign each suit in the deck a different action. For example, hearts could be kissing, clubs could be massaging, diamonds could be licking, and so forth. Take turns flipping over the card on the top of the deck. Whatever suit it happens to be is w Pin It hat your partner has to do to you. If you manage to make it through four to five flips without completely forgetting about the game and giving in to mounting temptation, you’re better than most.

9. Mirror Mirror

Explore each other’s bodies with a game of mirror, mirror. To play, strip down and stand next to each other, looking in a mirror. Select one person to begin. This person must touch something on his or her body, for example, her nipple. Whatever the leader does, the other participant has to follow, doing the same thing to the same part of their own body. Continue in this fashion, alternating between people in charge or letting one person dominate the entire exchange if this suits your proclivities. If you’re advanced in your sexual preferences, add toys and stimulation objects – like feathers – to the mix.

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By Heather Redwood
Heather Redwood graduated from Penn State University with a Speech Communication degree, and specializes in communication therapy. She has logged over 15,000 hours in one-to-one sessions with men and women, helping them to cope with codependency issues and love and sex addiction. She also specializes in online dating and marriage counselling.

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