How often do you really appreciate what your senses are giving you?
All too often, we tend to blow through life’s experiences, eating that delicious slice of cake as fast as we can or while we are thinking about something else. But if you take the time and learn how to focus on all the sights, sounds and smells life has to offer, you will make your experiences more intense and exciting. This is true for everything, from eating and drinking to, surprisingly, sex.
Great sex is a fun way to reap some mental and physical benefits. According to WebMD, sex can even do things like boost your immune system and lower your blood pressure. To reap your full rewards, you need to maximize your sexual experiences as much as possible, and that is where meditation comes in.
Switching gears and going from life observer to full-on participant is a matter of changing the way you focus and interact with your surrounding environment, and some meditation can go a long way in helping you achieve these goals. Whether you’re new to the practice or an expert, here are four reasons why meditation may just be the shot in the arm your sex life shouldn’t live without.
1. You’ll Realize Your Mind Power
Your mind is a powerful thing, but it’s easy to forget just how much you can do with it. Once you reacquaint yourself with what your mind is made of, you’ll give your sense of sexual power a boost. That lift will translate in the bedroom to both you and your partner’s delight!
Try some mindfulness meditation to help keep yourself in the present when it comes to sensory experiences. This type of meditation is aimed at getting you more connected to the moment in your life. Some simple techniques include sitting in a quiet area and observing the environment, while carefully bringing the mind back to the surroundings and the body when it tries to wander, and focusing on breathing. Pick a spot that is free of loud noises, distractions and frequent traffic. You can set up a small alter, with candles or photos you find relaxing, if you prefer. Aim for 15 to 20 minutes each session when you’re first starting out, and gradually increase the time as you become more adept. Many people stay at around 45 minutes, but you can do an hour or more with a lot of practice.
Allowing yourself to be dazzled by the power of your mind occasionally is a great way to boost your sexual confidence and keep from selling yourself short. Sexual energy is a key internal force for humans, so harnessing it using all the advantages you can build up will yield some incredible results. Don’t be afraid to let out your sexual energy and new-found confidence in the bedroom, as you and your partner will both enjoy it. Your partner may feed off it as well, letting his or her energy out more than usual.
2. You’ll Pulverize Energy Blocks
Energy blocks zap your vitality and can blur your focus. They’re also distractions that can certainly dim the mood in the bedroom and take away from the experience. Bringing meditation into sex allows you and your partner to help each other move past blocked energy paths in the most open and direct way possible, without the mental baggage found in daily life. Sex removes a lot of the barriers, such as anxiety, that we tend to bring into our normal social interactions. Practice mindfulness meditation in the bedroom to remove some of the space between you and your partner and let your sexual energy flow freely.
3. You’ll Feel More Connected To Yourself
Being fully aware of yourself during sex is one of the best ways to up the experience. It’s all too easy to be distracted by a random thought, and just that brief time of disconnection takes away from what you’re doing in terms of emotion and sensation. No one wants to start thinking about that bill they didn’t pay or those groceries they didn’t buy during sex, but it just happens sometimes. And once it starts, it can be hard to stop, especially if your mind is prone to wandering or you suffer from a lot of anxiety. Stressful times in your life can also add to this effect.
In meditation, there is a place referred to as the “gap.” This is where you can go to silence the internal thoughts and noises in your head, allowing you to reach a higher level of consciousness. Being able to reach this spot gives you more control when it comes to keeping yourself in the moment. Practice meditation on a daily basis to help sharpen and strengthen your abilities to keep yourself aware of your body and in the now. This will help deepen your physical and emotional responses during sex.
4. You’ll Be More Connected To Your Partner
A better emotional connection always makes for better sex, and with meditation, you’ll improve your ability to connect emotionally to your partner. If you open up more while you’re having sex, you’ll be able to release more energy at orgasm, upping the experience for all involved. A lack of emotional connection during sex may not seem apparent at first, but once you start bringing it more to the table, you and your partner will be able to see the difference.
Meditate regularly to help lose some sense of self-consciousness. Being self-conscious during sex is natural for a lot of people, but it does prevent you from completely enjoying what is happening because you are more focused on being embarrassed than what you are feeling. And even if your partner is not the self-conscious type, they may feel that vibration during sex and begin to second-guess too. This is because your connection to your partner during sex is a two-way street: you are both feeding off each other, so there is always some degree of transference.
The practice of mediation will help you let go of preconceived notions regarding what you should feel so you can just feel it instead, without judging yourself or holding back. Free yourself as much as possible from doubt and self-consciousness so you can enjoy all sex has to offer without feeling any shame or embarrassment about it.
If you’re entirely new to meditation or need more experience with it, try using online guides and videos for some instructions and tips. Forums dedicated to the practice are also a great way to connect with others at your level and learn from some more advanced practitioners. Your local community center, health centers or gyms may offer classes on meditation as well, so look around for some options that fit your budget if you need more guidance than you can find online.